Pernah dengar tak orang kata kat kita??
"Wahh...anak 5 dah ko Pija??"
"Tak sangka ek ada laki berkenan kat ko..dan yang paling aku tak sangka kurus kering macam ko pun boleh beranak 5 tu..."
Memanglah korang tak pernah dengar sbb korang anak 2-3 orang. Saya je terlajak sikit.
Sebut pasal bilangan anak ni, boleh pulak saya cakap kat husband. "Ahmadi anak bongsu kan??" and guess what, Nejad take a long breath before answer...."Kalau mcm tu kena ada 4 maklah nak dapat 20!!" Waaaaaaaaaaaaa...................always like that!
To my old friend, the Pija you used to be is not gone forever actually, Pija has just evolved!!I actually cant become a mother without making huge changes in my life. I have a friend from Taayah, Dr Siti Nurhayati who I really tak sangka will be a doctor (we share the same aggregat at school - best sc student la konon!). After that she getting married and now has a beautiful daughter.
When I say this, "Ada masa ke doktor nak basuh CD??" and she replied, "Sekarang aku dah ada priority dah tau, 1st muslimah, 2nd wife, 3rd doctor and the last is doctor!". Puyyoh...really tak sangka that is Yatie, a fren of mine in Taayah. But she is still Yatie...but new Yatie with a mak-mak character.
So, how to stay like ourself before??
Time for yourself....
How busy you are, you still have to find a time for yourself. It can be difficult especially for a new mother. By the time we try to add the demands of being a mother, a wife, a daughter, a friend and blabla..we may feel like, 'hey, there is nothing left for me!?'
I just said like this before while my husband decided to move to P.Putih. My M.Njang asked me, "Mak dgn abah OK ke Ayong pindah?" and I answered emotionally, "Tu lah susah, ini suami ajak, sana mak abah tak berapa nak bg and now, seems like nothing left for me to decide anything." I feel torn between home, work & family. But alhamdulillah, I have a mother, lovely mother who always give me a big heart. She try to understand me and my life become easier again.
To ensure this doesn't happen, we have to set aside time for self, even 10 minutes every day. Yupp....only 10 minutes and the number will be bigger as our baby become less dependent. Sometimes we will believe that this is selfish. It is not actually because by having the time for self, we able to think clearly and enjoy the family when we've been alone awhile.
How to get the 10 minutes Pija??
Study your baby's sleep and wake up time. 10 minutes before the baby is due to awake is the right time to have time for yourself. And it is bonus when luckily they awake late from the due time! (But sorry, if they awake earlier...just find another 10 minutes)
Another way to stay YOU is by hobby
Yes..just take up a hobby, or you might have a hobby that you've done before and wish to continue. But please pick a long-lost hobby. Blogging is actually a cool hobby (for me laa...). I guess kakyong now are looking for jahit2 one, Ayu bake the cheese cake and many more! So what is your hobby??
Being a mother is great actually. Thanx ALLAH for giving me the chance...and for my husband, without you I won't be a mother... but 5 is enough kan?????kan kan kan kan kan kan kan kan??????? kan laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa........................